Bullying is a topic that has plagued our society for years. How does one face their bullies?
Bullying can be viewed as an on-going and deliberate misuse of power in relationships through repeated verbal, physical and/or social behaviour that intends to cause physical, social and/or psychological harm. It can involve an individual or a group misusing their power, or perceived power over one or more persons who feel unable to stop it from happening.
Of course, as human beings, our new norm is to research it on Google. "Hey Google, how do we deal with bullies?"
The usual answers range from being confident, staying in groups, avoiding the bully, telling an adult or person with authority, standing up for yourself and ignoring the bully, amongst other strategies and techniques. While I mostly agree on these tactics, the best one, to me, is prayer.
As Children of God, we've all been in that position where we find it really, really, really hard to forgive persons especially when they are our loved ones. Even if it's a simple case of eating the last slice of puddling, I've been guilty of that one😗, or a more traumatic case of... let's say father/mother committing adultery. Forgiveness is not a simple thing. However, let me remind you of two Bible verses that have helped me to personally become better at forgiving my loved ones.
1 Thessalonians 5:17 says " Pray without ceasing."
Remember where you were when you started your spiritual journey with God and the person you are now and I'm sure you'll notice... you've grown, it's likely you've overcome several circumstances which have sought to bring you down and through this, you've grown. But how have you done this? And if you’re just starting, how are you going to do this? Well there's likely no one answer but I can guarantee that there was, and will be, a great deal of praying.
Remember your growth, is not due to your own strength but by the strength of God. You've gained knowledge and wisdom from his holy word, in addition to the teaching he's given you in your personal life. For those who've just started, you will do all these things by his grace and mercies. So remember that regardless of the problems you face, you can always depend on God for guidance. Do not hesitate to go to him in prayer and even in difficult times keep at it, don't stop praying.
When recalling this verse remember how great God's forgiveness is. When people, who mocked and crucified Jesus who had done nothing wrong, he forgave them, he died so that those among them, as well as those down the line (us) may live. However, remember the parable of the Unmerciful Servant, Matthew 18:21-35, where the servant who was granted mercy but the King failed to grant mercy to his own fellow servant and so was destroyed. In considering this, think, if we can't forgive one another, can we expect to receive God's forgiveness? That seems unfair right? If you want it ,strive to be able to give it to others, pray that God will clean and build your spirit that you may forgive those who hurt you and eventually you'll start to love them because you want them to receive the same salvation you received.
Focusing on Proverbs 25 vs. 28...
28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
Persons struggle with keeping their tempers in check for a number of reasons:
My name is Serena Richards and I, along with other helpful contributors, and of course the inspiration of God have written these posts as a source of help FOR YOU <3